The Household Map
One page for the whole house — who uses what, the rules you've agreed together, and where devices sleep. A shared picture, not a rulebook.
The line everyone hears
"If anything worries you, tell me — you won't be in trouble."
Say it out loud to each child. It's the highest-impact thing on this page, and it never expires.
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Apps they useThe 2–3 main ones |
Our 3 agreed rulesAgreed together, not imposed |
Where the device sleepsCharging spot overnight |
Age bandSee guide below |
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Age-band guide — find each child's starting point
5–10
Co-use
In the room together; controls set up before handover. Calm habits early.
Often: shared tablet, YouTube Kids, Roblox
11–12
Co-use
First device; secondary school. Keep apps on shared devices in shared rooms.
Often: YouTube, WhatsApp, Roblox / Minecraft
13–14
Co-set
The 13+ threshold. Agree limits and settings together. The amnesty line matters most.
Often: Instagram, Snapchat, TikTok
15–16
Coach
More private use. They manage day-to-day; you keep a backstop and check in weekly.
Often: Instagram, Snapchat, Discord
17–18
Consult
Near-adult, mostly self-managed. They lead, you advise; door always open.
Focus: account security, footprint