Sample plan

What a finished plan actually looks like.

This is a sample for a 13-year-old who uses Snapchat and Instagram — dated, in priority order, and linked to the exact guides. Your own plan is built from your answers and checked by a real person before it reaches you.

Checked by a real person Current to June 2026 No child-identifiable data

Bearings Household Plan Age band 13-14 Reviewed 20 June 2026

Your first three actions

The order matters. Do these before you work through the rest of your library.

Tighten friend-list and DM visibility. Start with Snapchat and Instagram. Open the platform guides and check the privacy settings together.

Use the blackmail-rule script this week. The goal is one memorable rule: stop, don't pay, don't delete, tell me.

Move overnight phone charging out of bedrooms. Frame it as sleep and routine, not suspicion. Add it to your Family Agreement.

Where your child stands

A calm picture, not a scary score.

Each area gets a simple rating and one practical note. Anything we can't tell from your answers becomes a "find this out" action — never an inflated risk.

Area	Where it stands	How sure	What to do
Device and settings	Moderate	Medium	Device controls exist but haven't been checked recently.
Contact and platform	Higher	Medium	Some accounts may allow contact from people not known offline.
Image and location	Moderate	High	Focus on photo visibility and location-sharing settings.
Family readiness	Lower	High	Your child trusting you enough to tell you is a real strength. Keep it that way.

Conversation for this week

The exact words to use — so you're not winging it.

What you might say

"If anyone ever threatens to share a photo, asks for money, or says you'll be in trouble if you tell me, the rule is simple: stop replying, don't pay, don't delete anything, and come to me. You won't be in trouble for telling me."

This links to the full sextortion and blackmail playbook, with the official places to report (CEOP and Report Remove).